Lies...we've all been there..hurt by the betrayal that comes with being lied to. ..and then the inevitable loss of trust that follows ..the rug pulled out from under our feet . after all what are trust and commitment other than the comfort and safety we experience between each other.. the mechanisms that allows us to explore and love each other with no risk to ourselves.. the mechanisms that allow people to reach out to each other in the assurance they will not be deliberately hurt... in short trust and commitment is our passport to knowing each other intimately.. without it we are ultimately alone.
So we look to others for honesty...but in our pursuit of trust we often miss the biggest deception of all... the lies we tell ourselves..
We all do it in varying degrees .. its human..carnal...and its the hardest thing to challenge. . because honesty requires self examination... and self criticism.. and dare we say it ... change...
No sincere apology or genuine self actualization can happen without it..
So the challenge is this..to stop.. think...ask.. what are you deceiving yourself about? .......
Have you got the courage to face up to the lies you tell yourself... do you even know what they are.. are you searching for the truth or your truth...are you fighting for whats right or to be right...because the difference is huge....
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Monday, July 20, 2009
Unbridled Joy
until i discovered it Joy was something that puzzled and fascinated me...
ultimately joy is an elusive state of being..something we all yearn after but very few find.
And so we look to happiness instead..the constant pursuit of that one thing that is going to make us content..fulfilled.... yet we never find it..
why? because it is impossible to be happy all your life.. life in its diversity brings sorrow, disappointment and pain..all things deemed to bring us happiness are fleeting in varying degrees...material goods are the obvious trap we fall into. but what about other people, relationships, achievements in our careers..havent we all chased after these things...and still been unhappy...
so you ask yourself then.. what is joy... how is it different to happiness...how can it make me content..even amidst lifes disappointments and sorrows..?
Ironically i found Joy with tears streaming down my face..my heart aching.....my future in tatters..because it was in that moment that i found peace...hope...and am undying belief in my future ..
Because i get it now.. i get that all i have to do is let go and keep my eyes on God.. he is there.. he catches me when i fall.. he strengthens me when i am weakest..and he gives me the excitement of hope... hope in my future... knowledge that he is working in it for my good as long as i walk in his will...
He is the only steadfast and dependable thing we have in a world awash with uncertainty .... he is my anchor, my hope , my savour and my friend.
He is the reason i have Joy...
ultimately joy is an elusive state of being..something we all yearn after but very few find.
And so we look to happiness instead..the constant pursuit of that one thing that is going to make us content..fulfilled.... yet we never find it..
why? because it is impossible to be happy all your life.. life in its diversity brings sorrow, disappointment and pain..all things deemed to bring us happiness are fleeting in varying degrees...material goods are the obvious trap we fall into. but what about other people, relationships, achievements in our careers..havent we all chased after these things...and still been unhappy...
so you ask yourself then.. what is joy... how is it different to happiness...how can it make me content..even amidst lifes disappointments and sorrows..?
Ironically i found Joy with tears streaming down my face..my heart aching.....my future in tatters..because it was in that moment that i found peace...hope...and am undying belief in my future ..
Because i get it now.. i get that all i have to do is let go and keep my eyes on God.. he is there.. he catches me when i fall.. he strengthens me when i am weakest..and he gives me the excitement of hope... hope in my future... knowledge that he is working in it for my good as long as i walk in his will...
He is the only steadfast and dependable thing we have in a world awash with uncertainty .... he is my anchor, my hope , my savour and my friend.
He is the reason i have Joy...
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
This disease called Life...
Well not an actual disease but,lets face it, we do all end up dying from it eventually... the more important question is whether we die laughing or crying..
Personally i prefer the former..partly because i dont have enough time to have a good cry but more importantly because life is both compulsory and cursory leading me to the conclusion that laughing is in fact the only option we are left with ..
And laugh i do... mainly at myself...sometimes at others (preferably not at their expense..)
If there is one thing i am certain of, its that people are funny. There are few exceptions to this rule but exceptions exist none the less. Top two would be psychopaths and child molesters..neither of these people are even remotely funny...i dont think i need to say more on that score.
But the balance of the human race- and especially those that share my immediete gene pool - are stand up comics of there own making if not of their own volition.
In fact life lesson number 1 ( and this is not in any order of importance) has to be not to take yourself or others too seriously..
Personally i prefer the former..partly because i dont have enough time to have a good cry but more importantly because life is both compulsory and cursory leading me to the conclusion that laughing is in fact the only option we are left with ..
And laugh i do... mainly at myself...sometimes at others (preferably not at their expense..)
If there is one thing i am certain of, its that people are funny. There are few exceptions to this rule but exceptions exist none the less. Top two would be psychopaths and child molesters..neither of these people are even remotely funny...i dont think i need to say more on that score.
But the balance of the human race- and especially those that share my immediete gene pool - are stand up comics of there own making if not of their own volition.
In fact life lesson number 1 ( and this is not in any order of importance) has to be not to take yourself or others too seriously..
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